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Dear Pat,
My life has been a shambles for the past three years depite
much effort to suceed. In desperation, I tried to go in other
directions, trying to find a future profession. The time has
come to make several choices. Unfortunately, financially (and
therefore emotionally), I am at the point of collapse. Can
you give me some clues? 
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STRESSED,
Modesto, CA
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Dear STRESSED,
Go ahead, collapse! Then start the rebuilding process. You've
been so afraid of failure that you've pushed yourself too far
into losing situations. Don't panic. If you fail, you fail.
Big deal! You aren't dead yet. Learn from your past mistakes.
Then close the door on the past and start again. People are
always asking me what their future is going to be. Well, you
make your own future. What are you going to create for yourself?
This I can tell you. You will not starve to death. You will
not be jailed or killed. And this is likely to be the last
really hard lesson that you will have to learn for awhile.
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Dear Pat,
I've put off looking for a more satisfying job for the last
few years. Now it seem s like the decision might be made for
me. My supervisor gave me a very poor review this year, and
with conditions the way they are, I'm afraid that I will be
laid off. What is your view of this situation?
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OPRESSED WORKER,
Sunnyvale, CA
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Dear OPRESSED,
There are two ways to make change in your life. You can make
a plan and follow it through, or you can wait until you are
backed up against a wall and are forced to change.
Traditionally, you have waited until you were desperate before
you were willing to take some risks. Don't you think it's
time to break that silly pattern?
You have very little job security right now. And you have
created this situation by passively resisting this job. You
don't feel like you owe your employer anything for the wage
you are being paid. If I were your boss, I would fire you!
You need to make a new plan now. Perhaps going back to school
to retrain for a job you will enjoy more. Sure that's hard,
but being unemployed is no picnic either! Make a plan and
go forward instead of continuing in these same sad circles.
Like the Nike ad says, 'Just do it!'
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